Kelly Gonsalves is a multi-certified sex educator and relationship coach helping people figure out how to make their dating lives actually feel good—more open, more optimistic, and more pleasurable. She received her bachelor’s degree in journalism from Northwestern University and went on to receive sex and relationship educator certifications from The Gottman Institute, Planned Parenthood, and Everyone Deserves Sex Ed. Her writings on sexuality, relationships, identity, and the body have appeared in Cosmopolitan, Teen Vogue, The Cut, mindbodygreen, and elsewhere. You can say hi on Instagram @kellyagonsalves and stay in the loop about her latest programs, gatherings, and other projects through her site and newsletter. Right now she’s probably snuggled up with her bullet journal somewhere or dissecting old seasons of The Bachelor though, in case you were wondering.
How to Watch Porn With Your Partner
If both of you are interested in it, viewing porn together can bring a new level of fun and intimacy to your relationship. Here’s how to bring it up — and a few best practices to keep in mind.
Everything to Know About the “Male G-Spot”
Consider this your crash course for the pleasure center.
27 Dirty Would You Rather Questions to Help Heat Things Up
Ask them on your next date night or whenever the mood feels right.
7 Fun Sex Positions You Should Try at Least Once
For those nights that you’re feeling a little adventurous.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Having More Sex
This is what the discussion should look like.
Let’s Talk About Foreplay: 11 Ways Men Can Mix Things Up in Bed
The first step is to rethink the definition of "foreplay" altogether.
So, Sex Has Become a Reward in Your Relationship. Is That a Problem?
A couple that’s treating sex as a commodity to be traded between them is wading into tricky waters.
9 Signs of a Satisfying Sex Life, According to Sex Researchers
When you have a sense of what you're aiming for, it can be easier to determine the steps you need to take to get there.
How to Bring Your Sex Life to a New Level This Year
It won't thrive without investment.
6 Ways to Help Your Partner Feel More Confident in Bed
Here are a few ways to support your partner’s confidence in and out of the bedroom.
How to Ask For What You Want in Bed (Without Making It Awkward)
Your partner isn’t a mind reader, and neither are you. To know how to turn each other’s gears just right, you’ll need to give each other the user manual.