Family is worth fighting for. Husbands-to-be know this. Parents-to-be know this. It’s why we couple up and multiply. It’s part of the deal. What is less explicit, less celebrated, is that family is worth fighting about. And fighting, whether in the form of cold war silence or utensil-throwing hysteria, is inevitable among people who care. And maybe that’s not so bad. A life without passion wouldn’t be worth much. Still, conflict feels awful in the moment, like having one’s stomach and heart tied into a stubborn knot.
Still, it happens. So let’s talk about. And let’s talk about getting better at conflict not only with our partners and parents, but also with our children and other peoples’ children and teachers and the annoying neighbors and everyone. After all, once we understand how fights work, we’ll know when we’re fighting for our families and when we’re just, you know, fighting.
Welcome to Fight Week.