Men are really good at getting off. That’s a fact. In a 2014 study, a group of researchers found that heterosexual men experience orgasm during sex more than 85 percent of the time. Those are pretty inspiring odds, especially when compared to the experience had by their female counterparts. When it comes to achieving multiple orgasms, however, men don’t seem to hold the same advantage. But let it be known: guys can experience multiple orgasms, too. They just need to develop a better understanding of what’s holding them back.
Most folks understand the male orgasm in terms of ejaculation. But the two are separate processes, controlled by different parts of the brain and the nervous system. If you’re itching to experience multiple orgasms, then you need to know how to handle each reflex independently.
Orgasm refers to the pleasurable sensation we achieve during the height of sexual arousal. Ejaculation revolves around the release of semen. It’s also responsible for the “refractory period,” or the time after ejaculation where a guy is unable to get hard again. It is nature’s way of allowing the body to rest, and reboot. If you can avoid ejaculation, you can avoid the limitations it places on the body’s ability to keep going.
The easiest way to accomplish this task revolves around something called the “squeeze technique.” When you feel yourself coming close to orgasm, pull out, place your index finger and thumb around the shaft of the penis, and squeeze. The pressure this places on the urethra helps prevent ejaculation from occurring. The aim is to come close to climax without hitting what researchers call “the moment of ejaculatory inevitability.” If you can interact with orgasm without release, you can learn to ride these waves of pleasure into a multi-orgasmic experience. That’s the idea, at least.
Of course, pulling out and slowing down isn’t exactly the sexiest sell. If you’re looking for a slightly less disruptive way to achieve multiple orgasms, you should think about strengthening your pelvic floor muscles. These are the hammock-shaped span of muscles that stretch between the tailbone and the pubic bone in people of all genders. The easiest way to locate them typically involves a trip to the bathroom. Unzip and start in on your business. When you’re about halfway through, try slowing or stopping the flow of urine. Mastering this task means mastering your ability to engage with these muscles. The stronger they are, the easier it will be to perform the “squeeze technique” without having to use your hands.
There are other ways to access multiple orgasms out there, too. Back in 1994, a sex educator named Jack Johnson came out with a program known as The Key Sound Multiple Orgasm (KSMO) training. The “key sound” refers to a particular noise you can make during sex. According to Johnson, the vibrations brought on by the sound can help “unlock” the key to multiple orgasms. He’s also responsible for something called The Multiple Orgasm Trigger. While related to his Key Sound training, this program is designed to deliver multiple orgasms by way of another organ altogether: the prostate.
The prostate, sometimes called “male G-spot,” is a walnut-sized gland located at the root of the penis, just below the bladder. The area is loaded with sensitive nerve endings that can provide pleasure when stimulated. Though the area can be located externally, via the perineum, the most direct approach revolves around actual anal penetration. Because this kind of stimulation is not typically associated with ejaculation, it allows individuals to experience orgasm over, and over again.
If that’s not your thing, there are still other areas to explore. In 2011, a group of researchers found that nipple stimulation activates the same area of the brain that genital touch inspires. It’s possible that stimulating other erogenous zones like the feet, ears and inner thighs could lead to similar semi-orgasmic experiences.
Of course, there is another incentive for men to achieve the ability to experience multiple orgasms – especially those who fall into the heterosexual camp. Guys typically take around five minutes to reach orgasm. Women regularly take up to 20 minutes to hit their mark. The longer you last in bed, the better her chances of having an orgasm. The more Os we have, the merrier we all become.