Orgasms feel pretty damn good already, don’t they? Especially considering that they often directly follow sex, and sex itself is pretty damn awesome. Chances are that you’ve never had more than a passing thought about having a more intense orgasm. After all, why mess with an already good thing? But, with some attention and a little bit of open-mindedness, it’s possible for men to have stronger, more satisfying orgasms during sex. Like, we mean the toe-curling, oh-thats-the-best-male-orgasm-I’ve-ever-experienced sort of thing. More good news: You don’t have to make Sting-level lifestyle changes to achieve them. So, in the effort of enhancing the already amazing, here’s a simple guide designed to help men have a super-satisfying strong orgasm every time.
Become Familiar with Edging
One of the chief complaints of orgasms? It’s that they just don’t last long enough. If you want to extend the experience, then you should become familiar with the concept of edging. This form of orgasm control — which you can read about here — requires you to decrease stimulation before you hit climax. Sure, it takes some self-control, but some say putting things off leads to a more explosive reward in the end. Plus, it gives your partner more to hit his or her mark. As that old saying goes (or at least, it should), the more orgasms, the merrier.
Proper breathing is key to good sex and subsequently, intense orgasms. Really. As we previously discussed, deep breathing helps engage the pelvic floor. It also helps improve cognition and circulation. It can give us a boost in energy and make us feel closer to our partners. All of that leads to more quality sex.
Perform Some Kegel Exercises
If that bit about multiple orgasms got you excited, then you’ll be over the moon to hear that exercising a certain group of muscles can help you get there even faster. We often associate kegel exercises with female genitalia, but men have a pelvic floor too, and engaging it can lead to all sorts of orgasmic perks. Some guys like to perform these exercises by clenching as though they were stopping to pee midstream. Others like to put a towel of their erect penis and essentially complete raises as they engage the kegal muscles. Gaining control over this area will allow men to perform the “squeeze technique” discussed above without having to use their hands. Read more about performing kegels here.
Another way to enhance orgasm revolves around something called “the squeeze technique.” The method requires you place your thumb and index finger around the shaft of the penis and squeeze slightly just before reaching “the moment of ejaculatory inevitability.” Remember, orgasm and ejaculation are two separate events. The more you practice, the more likely you’ll be able to attain the sensation of orgasm without ejaculation. And nailing that skill could bring you closer to the holy grail of climaxes: multiple orgasms. (Hint: It’s not just for the ladies.)
Open Up The Back Door
Men may possess hanging genitalia, but they’re also host to a more hidden pleasure center. The prostate is located about two inches below the rectum, toward the scrotum. While is possible to locate the area externally, via the perineum, the most direct approach requires some penetration. Try inserting a finger into the anus. Start with a “come hither” motion, toward the naval. Be on the lookout for a squishy gland about the size of a walnut. That’s your target. The area has been known to provide such enormous amounts of pleasure that it’s been dubbed “the male G-spot.”
It’s easy to prioritize the penis during sex, but the body contains a wealth of erogenous zones outside of that one organ. Take the testicles and scrotum, for instance. This area, which usually is on the receiving end of a line drive, is packed with sensitive nerve endings, which make it responsive to all sorts of stimulation. Some guys like gentle tugging, others prefer some sensual licking. The only way to really know what you like down there is by fooling around. Of course, if you want to “play ball,” ensure you’re clean and have trimmed the hedges.
What we decide to put in our bodies can have an enormous impact on our sexual performance. According to the experts, it’s best to stay away from junk food if you want to be a star in the sack. Poor cardiovascular health is said to be one of the most common causes of erectile dysfunction. That’s because clogged vessels make it harder to get the blood flowing into penis. It’s no surprise that obesity has been linked to low testosterone in men. Of course, you don’t want to be too restrictive in your diet. Animal products are an excellent source of Vitamin D. Cutting them out puts you at risk of a deficiency, which has also been linked to an inability to get hard. Vegetarians and vegans may want to consult a dietician to find alternate sources of these vitamins.
Cut Back on the Booze
Alcohol is fun, but if you’ve ever suffered from “whiskey dick,” or the inability to maintain an erection after a few too many, you know that overindulgence has its costs. If you want to be on top of your game, try not to booze too often. After all, alcohol is a depressant, and it can affect parts of the nervous system that are key to intense orgasm and arousal. Fortunately, you don’t have to cut all vices out of your life to maintain peak performance. Caffeinated beverages have been shown to help boost circulation. The more blood you have rushing around, the stronger your erection will be.
Try out Some Sex Toys
The sex toy industry is estimated to be worth around $15 billion. That kind of money seems to suggest that they’re onto something good. While it’s true much of the industry is designed to enhance female sexual pleasure, there are plenty of quality products on the market for men. Cock rings are always a crowd favorite. They’re worn around the base of the penis. The idea is to prevent the blood from flowing out of your erection. That’s going to intensify your hard-on, and help it last for a longer period of time. There are even some vibrating rings on the market, which helps deliver a rumble both partners can enjoy.