5 Breathing Exercises That Lead to Better Sex

Being mindful about breathing is one of the easiest ways to improve the bedroom experience. It’s also one of the easiest things to overlook.

Prepping for sex isn’t always easy. Sometimes, you need to shave and sometimes you need to shower. Maybe the sheets need a change. Maybe you need a change. Maybe you’ll feel inspired to pick up some wine, or flowers. Maybe you’ll get a babysitter. Maybe you’ll book a hotel. Maybe both plans will go to hell. Sometimes, sex can stress us out. But you can’t forget to breathe.

Seriously. Stress can kill good sex. And one of the best ways to slash stress is to pay attention to your breathing. It helps improve cognition, circulation and gives us a boost in energy. And all those factors contribute to quality sex. According to Kait Scalisi, a pleasure-based sex educator, being mindful about our breathing is one of the easiest ways to improve the bedroom experience. It’s also one of the easiest things to overlook. Listed below are a few easy ways to breathe your way into better sex. Here are five breathing exercises that lead to better sex.

Go Deep

According to Scalisi, we don’t often take deep enough breaths during sex. Too often, we lean into shallow breathing, especially around orgasm. By doing that, we’re actually cheating ourselves out of a better sexual experience. “Deeper breathing can help us achieve deeper, stronger and longer-lasting orgasms,” says Scalisi. It can also help us feel more connected to our partner in the moment.

Use Your Muscles

“When you take a deep breath, it engages your pelvic floor,” says Scalisi. She is, of course, referring to the hammock-shaped muscles that stretch between the tailbone and pubic bone. These are the same muscles that contract during orgasm and are connected to your core, she explains. If you’re having a hard time differentiating between the two types of breathing, try paying attention to the sounds you’re making.  “Breathing more deeply sounds more like moans and groans than high pitched yips,” says Scalisi.

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Stay Calm

“For many people, lower stress is a major part in having more intimate, exciting, and fulfilling sex,” says Scalisi. Deep breathing, she explains, is key to staying calm. That’s because it’s linked to the parasympathetic nervous system, the reflex responsible for the “rest and digest” response. Shallow breathing, on the other hand, is more closely associated with the sympathetic nervous system, the reflex responsible for the “flight or fight” response. Of course, different folks enjoy different kinds of sex, but having sex in a relaxed state seems slightly more appealing than getting it on under acute stress.

Breathe Into Your Body

During sex, Scalisi recommends breathing deeply and focusing on your genitalia while doing so to enhance pleasure. “As your pleasure builds, think about taking deep breathes all the way into your genitals,” she adds. “This will shift your focus there, heightening your sensation and making it more likely to experience orgasm.”

Get Nose-y

Scalisi also suggesst breathing through just your nose. “This brings in more oxygen than breathing through your mouth, gives you a natural high from the nitric oxide, and engages your core and pelvic floor differently,” she explains. But breathing adventurers beware: This is an exercise to start out, as it will get decidedly more difficult the as things heat up.

Practice, Practice, Practice

Practicing focused breathing on your own can help prepare for a partnered experience. Scalisi suggests doing a little yoga before diving into bed. “Inhale through your nose,” she suggests. “Imagine your pelvic floor moving down and away from you, as if you arched your back. As you exhale, feel it lifting up.” Doing this, she says “helps bring your attention to the pelvic floor, allowing you to engage with it more completely and heightening your sensations so that every stroke, lick, and plunge feels that much yummier.”