Indulgences tend to pair well, so we shouldn’t have been surprised by the recent study confirming what proponents of mixing marijuana and sex have long claimed, that smoking weed can enhance your sex life. Now that rigorous scientific data supports the idea that high sex is empirically smoking, how do you have great sex while high?
First off, credit for this very fun finding goes to Dr. Michael Eisenberg, an assistant professor of urology at Stanford University. Eisenberg sees a lot of different patients for a lot of different reasons, but a common reason for a trip to his office revolves around problems pertaining to the bedroom. So common, in fact, that he decided to take a more clinical look into things. He gathered data from the U.S. government’s National Survey of Family Growth and analyzed information comparing how often individuals had sex with how often they partook in other activities. To his surprise, he found the more people smoked marijuana, the more success they had in the bedroom.
A previous survey conducted by Psychology Today found that marijuana does indeed act as an aphrodisiac among users — a finding that’s been supported by separate studies since. A majority of respondents said smoking before sex helps enhance the experience. Of course, that’s not always the case. A minority of participants said smoking kills their libido. Others said it depends on the dose, the strain, as well as, their mood.
That said, the majority of folks who like smoking, and who like sex, seem to enjoy bringing the two together. Folks like Jeff Dillon, who, earlier this year, founded Xblaze, the world’s first and only 420-friendly adult film studio.
“Most people can use cannabis to enhance their sexual experience,” he tells Fatherly. According to Dillon, smoking before sex can increase sensitivity, and help deliver more intense orgasms. Plus, he says, smoking often helps reduce anxiety, a major contributor to erectile dysfunction. Side-stepping that symptom brings you one step closer to lasting longer in bed, and hey, that might be something worth striving for.
Still, there are some things the casual marijuana user should know before having sex while high. Here’s what to know.
Pick the Right Strain for Stoned Sex
Certain strains of marijuana are more likely to cater to sex than others. Some tend to put you in a more cerebral mood; others are designed to enhance physical sensations. Figure out which one primes you for sex best (before the big night), and go from there. With that, Dillon says users typically gravitate toward sativa products because they can help increase sensitivity, lift mood, and intensify orgasm. Though, he says, no two people react alike. “Everyone responds differently to different cannabinoids, so what works for one person might not work for another,” he cautions. Don’t feel pressured to match your partner’s smoking experience. Do what feels best for you.
Don’t Experiment With Weed the Night Of
It’s important to get acquainted with your high before jumping into sex. Try experimenting with different strains and different doses in the days before. “Don’t experiment with a product the night of your sexual experience,” says Dillon. “You should know beforehand how your body will respond to a particular product.”
Be Careful With Edibles
Edibles are a fun way to get high. They taste good, and they allow you to dodge the risk of getting caught in a coughing fit. Plus, they take smoke and smell out of the equation, which can be a perk if you have kids sleeping around the corner (vape pens are also a good way to get an odorless high). But, they do come with their own set of drawbacks. It’s harder to measure the amount of THC you’re consuming with edibles. They also take a while to kick in. “Take a small dose and see how your body responds before taking more,” Dillon suggests.
Use (Lots Of) Lube
“Cotton mouth” refers to the feeling of dryness that can smoking can induce. That’s because THC, the active ingredient in marijuana, can actually block the glands that produce saliva. Of course, that symptom can usually be remedied with a tall glass of water. But smoking can also cause other areas to dry up, and that doesn’t exactly cater to good sex. “Cotton vagina,” as it turns out, is also very much of a real thing. Fortunately, as Dillon reminds us, there are a lot of lubes on the market. Make sure to have one handy. And, hey, if you want to keep with the theme of the evening, there are also a variety of weed-infused intimacy products to choose from.
Marijuana spurs creativity. And if that leads you to explore the most random sex positions you never knew existed, embrace it. Try new things that you and your partner are comfortable with. Don’t be afraid to voice your thoughts too. Let them know what they are doing right and how they can enhance it.
Don’t Get Too High for High Sex
“Less is more,” says Dillon. “You want to enhance the moment. You don’t want to consume so much it takes you out of the mood,” he adds. Remember, getting high is a gradual process. If you rush the process, you may end up getting more stoned than you want. So start small, and go slow. “Save going into a weed coma for the movies,” says Dillon.