Moms and dads have always worried about teens having sex, but this concern has been inflated since the rise of risqué comedies in the 1980s and 1990s, which glamorized the loss of virginity and sex in high school. Movies like Porky’s, Fast Times at Ridgemont High, and American Pie still scare the crap out of prude parents today, while newer features like Blockers haven’t helped. But concerns about virginity and teen sex are not necessarily backed by the data and not every adolescent is in a pact to lose their v-card before college.
The reality is that only about half of teenagers have sex before high school graduation, according to data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, and that figure has not changed for over a decade. But, despite having equal rates of consensual sex, LGBTQ teenagers are nearly twice as at risk for sexual assault.
So while the data may quell some concerns, it raises new ones for parents as well. Here’s what moms and dads need to know about their kids having sex one day.
Roughly 40 Percent of Teens Haven’t Had Sex by Graduation
It’s a trend that has remained pretty consistent since 2005, CDC data suggests. Only about 1 in 4 ninth graders report that they have ever had sex. That figure climbs steadily throughout high school, culminating in the 12th grade, when about 60 percent claim to have had sex. If nothing else, this data debunks the myth that high schoolers are all sexually active — nearly half are still virgins by graduation! It is important for parents to convey this information to their children, to help combat the pressure they may feel to have sex before they are emotionally ready.
LGBTQ Teens Are Getting Laid About as Much as Everyone Else…
The CDC only started keeping tabs on the sex lives of gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens in 2015, so data showing how this demographic’s sexual activity rates have changed over the past 10 years are not available. But we do have the next best thing: a side-by-side comparison of the percentage of heterosexual and homosexual teens who report having had sex at least once. Although studies have shown that LGBTQ teens are more likely to engage in risky sexual behavior, the CDC data suggest that queer high schoolers aren’t having significantly more sex.
Yet Queer Teens Are at Double the Risk of Sexual Assault
It is telling that, despite roughly equal rates of consensual sex, lesbian, gay, and bisexual teens are at significantly higher risk of sexual assault — defined here as the percent of high school students who report being forced to have sex at least once. The data highlights the importance of educators and psychologists devising specific interventions for sexual minority teens.
The Bottom Line
The idea of the increasingly sexually-active high-schooler is, it seems, more myth than fact. Some 40 percent of high schoolers forgo sex completely during high school, a number that has stayed this way for over a decade. This changes only incrementally when you look at LGBTQ teens. Curious about your kid’s case? The best way to find out is to talk to them about it.