Divorce can be messy. Even in the most amicable of splits, a couple’s decision to dissolve their marriage is, at best, complicated and paperwork-heavy. This is fairly remarkable given that about a half of all marriages in the U.S. end in divorce. You’d think someone would make it easier. No one has. And that’s doubly true when there are kids involved. In the midst of legal battles and custody decisions, it can be hard to figure out how to tell kids about divorce, how to pick out divorce care for kids, or even trying to find divorce books for kids.

That’s why Fatherly built this guide to the ins and outs of navigating divorce with kids. We talked to lawyers. We talked to therapists. We talked to pediatricians. And we talked to a lot of regular parents who’ve made the most of difficult situations. It’s a tough topic, but rest assured that there are productive ways forward if you pay attention to the details, like how to find a divorce attorney, how to file for divorce, and how divorce affects life insurance. Pay attention and, when it comes time to introduce kids to your new apartment, it can be a happy occasion.