Parents, looking for time to themselves eventually want to know what age can a child stay home alone? But understanding how long a child can be left alone depends on several important factors. As with all things parenting, it’s a cloudy issue with a lot of factors at play. The answer is largely related to the temperament of your child
What age can kids stay home alone? Truth be told there’s no hard-and-fast rule. But at all stages, alone time can, and should, be utilized. That includes infants. And luckily, as technology advances, parents have more opportunities for downtime than ever.
How Long Can Babies Be Left Alone?
“Most parents have baby monitors. They can see everything their baby does on their phone or at least hear them on a monitor,” says Dr. Tasha Howe, assistant professor of psychology at Humboldt State University. “Babies can be left alone to nap, especially if they are on a firm mattress with no fluffy blankets or pillows, with snug clothing, as recommended to prevent SIDS.”
The amount of time babies can be left alone in a secure, safe area, has less to do with the actual duration, and more to do with a baby’s temperament. A child with a cautious temperament may need parents to stick closer to them than an adventurous baby might.
“Some babies are happy cooing in a crib for a couple of hours, others not even for five minutes. But it isn’t harmful to leave a baby for 30 minutes while you cook or read a book,” says Dr. Howe. “Their limbs need to move and they need face-to-face contact for proper brain development so they should have plenty of face time but also some down time to prevent overstimulation.” She suggests a structured schedule that cycles through feeding, nap, play at specific times to help babies regulate their circadian rhythms and predict what’s coming.
How Long Can Toddlers Be Left Alone?
Once a child reaches toddler and preschool age, parents should feel comfortable letting children roam the house and yard (provided it’s all been childproofed) for as long as they like. Kids should be encouraged to explore on their own as discovery begins.
“Their main job in life is discovery and hypothesis-testing — ‘What would happen if I climbed here, opened this, or pulled on this?’ ” says Howe. “So they should be able to roam around the house and forbidden rooms should have closed doors with childproof knobs. If you have a small yard where they can’t get hurt or wander off, they can be out there alone but you should always be able to see and/or hear them.”
To that point, the definition for “alone” for a child under 7 should absolutely include the parent being physically near a child and within earshot. Being in a different room than a calm baby or an exploratory toddler is completely fine for whatever interval the child is content, but the second commotion or trouble can be detected, parents need to be ready to spring into action.
How Long Can Middle and Elementary Schoolers Be Left Alone?
It’s not until a child gets into the middle of his or her elementary years that parents should consider leaving them alone in the more literal sense. And even then, a massive number of factors — geography, maturity, etc. — dictate whether alone time should be implemented.
“In general, most children can be left alone for an hour or so between 8 and 10 years of age. If an 8-year-old must be home after school alone, it’s best to have them call to check in, and have a structured schedule set for homework, chores, TV, etc. until parents get home,” says Howe. “It depends on the age and the temperament of the child: Some kids are content playing alone and are very mature or responsible. Others can’t be trusted. Also, each state has specific laws about the age when a child can be left alone.”