Having sex outside of your own bedroom can be exciting. Having sex outside of your typical gravitational restraints is downright thrilling. Besides space, there’s only one place we can go to get that kind of release: the water. But, here’s the thing: in practice, it’s normally a slippery, awkward experience met more with screams of oh-my-god-is-that-you-or-some-kelp than oh-my-god-that-feels amazing. With the right knowledge, sex in water can be really fun and pleasurable. So, whether you’re trying to get down in the tub, natural body of water, or an infinity pool (you fancy bastard, you), here’s what you need to know before diving in.
Find the Right Location
According to an internet survey of over 1,500 adults, having sex in an unusual place is among our top sexual fantasies. Having sex in a romantic place is also up there on the list. A separate survey conducted by Sleep Cupid, a mattress retailer, finds that sex on the beach is a major turn on among most women. The ocean, it appears, is where romance and exhibitionism combines. Still, public sex is illegal, so it’s important to use discretion. “Be respectful of others,” says Dr. Sadie Allison, sexologist and author of The Mystery of the Undercover Clitoris. “If you’re into exhibitionism, make sure the pool or body of water is appropriate for that, or big enough to where you won’t impose your sexcapades onto others who may not want to see that, or have children around.”
If you’re already fluid-bonded with your partner, you don’t have to worry about using protection. But if condoms are part of your routine, it’s important to know how to manage them in the water. “Put condoms on before getting into the water,” says Dr. Sadie. “Otherwise water can slip inside the condom and cause leakages, breakage, or cause it to slip off.” It’s also important to be mindful of the fact that different bodies of water contain different contaminants, she says. “Lakes and oceans are the dirtiest bodies of water, so beware of the possibility of germs and irritation they can cause,” she warns. “Dirt and particles in the water can also compromise your condom.”
Consider All Options
We tend to gravitate towards a rather shallow definition of sex. But remember, penetration isn’t always integral to a pleasurable sexual experience. When it comes to having sex underwater, other stunts might actually prove more pleasing. Those with female partners should be mindful of the fact that having sex underwater can allow bacteria to get into the vagina. Swapping penetration out for other kinds of play will make her less likely to land an infection. “Consider foreplay and oral in or under the water, then take it on dry land for intercourse,” she says. If you want to get more creative, you can always prop your partner up at the edge of the pool while you remain submerged in the water. That way, you’ll be positioned to give them great oral. It also provides some great leverage to entertain something other X-rated activities.
Don’t Forget The Lube
Remember, water is not wet. Although it may sound counterintuitive, water actually washes away our natural lubrication. And having sex without being fully lubricated can leave individuals more open to infection. Dr. Sadie suggests bringing along silicone-based lube, which won’t wash away in the water. Besides, they tend to stay on for a long time, so you won’t have to worry about reapplying too often.
Take A Toy With You
Research suggests that couples that use sex toys experience more sexual satisfaction in their relationship than couples that shy away from them. With that, it’s no wonder why the industry is now worth an estimated $15 billion. And mixed into that billion-dollar bag are toys of the waterproof variety. There are now cock rings, vibrators, rabbits on the market equipped for submersion. If you’re into that kind of thing, Dr. Sadie suggests planning ahead and packing a bag.