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In honor of Father’s Day, John Legend partnered with Pampers to bust out an ode to dads and dirty diapers that is going to stick in the head of anyone who has ever done diaper duty. As he changes his two-year-old daughter, Luna, he croons, “Somebody’s got a stinky booty; Her name is Luna and she made a poopy.” It might not seem like a hit, but when the two other dads in the video, Jeff Mindell and Glen Henry, chime in with their versions of the ‘Stinky Booty Duty’ song (its official title), you’re done. The tune is in your head. Embrace it, sing along, and change that diaper.
We here at Fatherly know John Legend well. He was our Father of the Year in 2017, and appeared on the Fatherly podcast to talk about how being a dad changed him. But did you catch these other dads? The totally regular guys singing a John Legend ditty? Like John, they are dedicated dads who celebrate all that is parenting. We got a chance to talk to them and get some behind the scenes scoop on how they tackle stinky booty duty (and yes, there’s already a hashtag for it: #StinkyBootyDuty).
On the day of his son, Arlo’s, arrival, Jeff Mindell asked a nurse a very important question: How do you change a diaper? “I’d never been around an infant before and diapers were very new to me,” he says. “I was in the hospital the day I learned how to do it. Now I am continually learning little tricks and techniques that I need to distract him and keep him still while I’m changing him. It’s about learning and adapting to who your child is in the most hands-on way. I really take pride in it.”
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That sense of pride dads feel when cleaning up a dirty diaper is about learning about your child and providing for them, not about the diaper duty. That’s what makes it a special job just for dads.
“I have two older boys and when our third baby, Anaya, came along I jumped into changing diapers because something as simple as that lets you know you’re needed,” says Glen Henry, founder of Beleaf in Fatherhood. “The mom and the baby have an awesome relationship in the beginning and this is where I get to do my duty and help. It makes me feel like a part of things — it’s where I get to shine.”
Yes, you get to shine among the muck and mire that is diaper duty — as long as you can find the fun. “It’s about enjoying that moment and making it special,” Henry says. “Singing is a huge thing. I’m always making up songs on the spot and beatboxing and making little mantra songs about diaper time and whatever else we have to get done that I can make them smile about.”
Mindell does the same thing — singing to 15-month-old Arlo to keep his squirminess at bay during changing time. “He is not a chill baby so I always make faces and sing songs and clap with him while I’m changing him — just like we did with the ‘Stinky Booty Duty’ song.”
“You can’t do everything the way a perfect parent does or the way Instagram makes it look — and being able to capture these moments with Anaya reminds me of that,” Henry says. “Jeff had his own lyrics for the song I had my own beatboxing style and obviously we accomplished the same goals as fathers: we bonded with our kids.”
If there is anything these dads can say to explain what diaper duty says about fatherhood to them it’s that these small moments show you the big picture of what it means to know your child, to take care of them, and to have fun being the father that you are.
There are many things you can’t control when it comes to what goes down in a diaper change, but what Henry has learned is that there are two things you can control: your attitude and the diapers you put your babies in.
“You don’t want to compromise when it comes to your baby,” he says. “I struggled in the beginning because I wanted my kid to be a genius, so I sat him on the toilet at eight months and thought I could just potty train him. It took me a minute to realize that it’s not about that; it’s about enjoying the process. So you do the best you can for them. You find diapers that give you what you want as a parent and meet your child’s needs, you take care of them, you learn from them, and you enjoy every process — because every conversation and every diaper change and every family trip makes up fatherhood.”
Both Mindell and Henry use Pampers Pure — the diaper featured in the online video — for both Anaya and Arlo. “If we’re getting really granular we use Pampers Pure diapers and wipes because they have the ingredients that are important to us – free of fragrances, lotions and chlorine bleaching. But they have the Pampers protection we have relied on since we took him home from the hospital – and the ever important Wetness Indicator!”
But even if they enjoy having to change their little ones less, neither of these dads will enjoy changing time less anytime soon. “Every opportunity I have to spend one on one time with a child you find it and take it,” Henry says. “It’s about enjoying that moment.”