Advice

8 Sex Tips For Grown Men

Because we could all use a refresher every now and then.

Sex is an ever-evolving act, one that fluctuates a lot as we get older. Routines emerge. Frequency might dip. Regardless of where your relationship is, there are some fundamentals that will always help to keep it steamy.

1. Be a Good Partner

A great sexual relationship is hinged upon being a great partner. That means communicating, contributing, validating, appreciating, and all the good stuff that builds connection, trust, and intimacy.

2. Embrace Yourself

Find comfort within your own body. The more you learn to appreciate yourself and the more confidence you have, the more comfortable and confident your partner will likely feel too.

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3. Talk The Talk

If you’re not talking about sex, you’re likely not all that good at it. In a healthy relationship, conversations about sex should be a regular occurrence. This means having open and honest discussions about desires, intimacy, frequency, likes, dislikes, and more.

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4. Don’t Ignore Foreplay

More importantly, if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, rid yourself of the notion that foreplay is merely a warm-up act and must lead to sex. It’s simply another version of sexual play. Besides, many women are more likely to get off from non-penetrative sex.

5. Stop Focusing On Orgasms All the Time

Orgasms are great and all, but they’re not the end-all, be-all of sex. Sex is about the journey, not the destination; tunnel vision will obscure the experience.

6. Still, Remember That The Gender Orgasm Gap Is Real

Meaning that, per research, women in heterosexual relationships tend to achieve regular orgasms far less than their male partners. Many factors apply, but if you’re in a heterosexual relationship, this is an important reminder to focus on her pleasure more (remember what we said about foreplay?)

7. Put Sex On A Schedule

No, this doesn’t mean you’re boring — it means you’re busy. And busy people need to carve out time for intimacy to stay satisfied.

8. Take Care of Yourself

Eat right. Exercise. And find ways to keep your mental health in a good place. If you can’t be there for yourself, you won’t be there for your partner.

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