A recent report from the U.S. Department Of Health And Human Services already indicated that people are increasingly cool with gay moms and dads, and a new study out of Tufts University suggests that there’s good reason for such acceptance: they’re just as good at parenting as everyone else. As someone who had to go to the bathroom just to read this, you can probably respect that.
The extensive research looked at 732 gay fathers in 47 states and found that their children’s well-being was almost identical to what heterosexual families reported in the 2012 National Health Interview Survey. In the same questionnaire, 87 percent of straight parents said that it was “not true” that their kid is unhappy or depressed, compared to 88 percent of gay dads. Likewise, 72 percent of homosexual fathers reported that their kid does not “worry a lot,” whereas 75 percent of hetersexual parents said the same thing. Yes, the survey relies on self reporting and, yes, you know that self-reported studies are suspect, but at the very least the results show that all parents lie to researchers the same way.
It seems like the only measurable difference between gay dads and everyone else is the stigma their families experience, which is mostly of out of their control. Still, a majority of gay fathers reported avoiding situations where their children were exposed to such judgement, and that might explain why their kids aren’t anymore more less depressed or worried than other kids. So, it doesn’t matter who you’re sleeping next to after putting your well-adjusted kids to bed — it appears all parents are doing their best at a pretty tough gig. And, admit it: having another dad around the house would be helpful, even if you don’t want to marry him.