In an interview on The Ellen DeGeneres Show, actor Rob Lowe admitted that, while he loves his wife, he has a very hard time sleeping next to her. In fact, the actor, currently touring a one-man show called Stories I Only Tell My Friends: Live!, admitted to DeGeneres that he actually sleeps best when he’s in a bed by himself.
“She’s obsessed with playing ‘Family Feud’ ‘ till five or six in the morning on the iPad, and wakes me up; ‘Honey, honey, name five foods that are gross!,” he said
While Lowe said he can admire her desire to get his input on such a crucial matter, he admits that it makes sleeping next to her more difficult. So, in a stunning display of self-awareness and candor, Lowe relayed that he doesn’t actually feel too bad about putting his wife’s 5 AM fixation on blast. He didn’t just say that she makes it hard to sleep, but went as far as to say the words “I love her enough to speak the truth.”
Lowe and his wife aren’t the only people who struggle with this. The National Sleep Foundation estimated that between 11 and 23 percent of live-in couples sleep in separate beds. A separate study even suggests that internationally, that figure could be between 30 and 40 percent. Sleep patterns and habits are pretty personal, and changing them for another person can be really hard. Despite this, many couples don’t just speak about sleeping separately in terms of comfort, but as something that literally makes their relationship better.
“We know that couples who are sleep deprived are less able to show empathy for their partner, so they are less able to read their emotions,” said Wendy Troxel, a senior behavioral and social scientist at the RAND Corporation think tank. “And being able to read what your partner is telling you, emotionally, is a really important skill in a relationship.”