“Guess what, kids? You’re going to be disappointed and uncomfortable once in a while.” Wise words from Reese Witherspoon, who revealed in an interview with Fast Company earlier this month that she thinks it’s important to be brutally honest with her kids.
The 42-year-old actress and mom of three said she ends every night watching an episode of The Crown, Queer Eye, The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel or the newest Chris Rock special on Netflix. And when it comes to the latter, she especially enjoys his bit about telling children the truth, even when it’s not what they want to hear.
“I feel like I’m constantly counteracting pressure from the parents who want to make the lives of their kids golden and magical at all moments!” Witherspoon, who recently started her own company, Hello Sunshine, lamented.
She went on to describe a specific incident that happened with her oldest child, 19-year-old Ava: “I remember Ava crying in bed in third grade—she was on JV basketball and she was the only kid on the team who didn’t score. I said, ‘Aves, maybe you’re bad at basketball.’ She thought that was mean. I said, ‘Mean or true? ‘Cause, guess what? Your mom’s bad at basketball, too.”
Witherspoon and husband Jim Toth use the same tough-love parenting with Deacon, 15, and Tennessee, 6, too. And if anything, it’s only strengthened the family’s bond. As the Whiskey in a Teacup author wrote on her blog, “There is nothing like the love I have for my daughter. We share every emotion with each other, our hopes, and dreams.”