After witnessing the birth of his second child, William Battle was understandably overwhelmed with emotion. He expressed himself by writing a heartfelt tribute to his wife. Then he posted it to Facebook.
It’s long for a Facebook post, but a few sentences near the end capture the sentiment: “My son is an absolute miracle. Babies are absolute miracles. But to me, the greater miracle is his mother, who has shown me what selfless sacrifice really is. What love really is.”
The post has attracted over 14,000 likes and 47,000 shares since Battle shared it two weeks ago; people really seem to like earnest displays of emotion from dudes in awe of their wives’ ability to give birth.
And we agree that the feelings Battle expresses in the post—love, admiration, awe, humility—are admirable and relatable. But that doesn’t mean fathers should feel like they aren’t good dads or husbands if they didn’t post their feelings in public. It’s fine for Battle to do this, but not everyone should feel the same pressure. To put it another way, it’s nice he said this, but plenty of men say this every day. They just don’t post it on Facebook.
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Whether or not it was his intention, Battle is attracting a measure of viral fame—setting himself apart—by expressing something felt and expressed privately by any new dad worth his salt. That’s fine. But it doesn’t mean other dads aren’t great, too.
Battle’s wife probably is a miracle. That’s great. Facebook is occasionally useful for posting these kinds of things. We’re all for it. But, we also want every parent to know, that just because you don’t post it on Facebook, doesn’t mean it didn’t happen. Real people say nice things about their family every day. So, if you want to follow Battle’s example, do it in your own way. If that means posting something online, great. But it