Parents are pretty much in a never-ending cycle of being overscheduled and while missing certain events is almost an inevitability, one mom’s viral post argues that you should always prioritize being at your kid’s sporting events, as it will likely play a huge role in making them feel like they can depend on you.
Writing for PopSugar, Caitlin Gallagher recalls her own experience with her parents going out of their way to get to her basketball games. She says that while it always meant a lot to her to see her parents at her games growing up, “I didn’t realize until I got older just how hard it must have been for them to do that. I know they must have had to leave work early a lot, endure long drives to faraway schools, fight their way through notoriously bad Midwestern snowstorms, and forget any personal stress to enthusiastically cheer me on.”
Gallagher says that even when her sister would have a game on the same day, her parents would do their best to get to both games or at least have one of them at each. This sort of dependability taught Gallagher that she could count on her parents to be there for her and made her want to work harder to show appreciation for them.
“Just like in every other aspect of my life, my parents proved I could rely on them,” she wrote. “And that feeling has stuck with me throughout my life.”
Gallagher knows that “it isn’t always possible or easy to show up and be at every game, but parents, even if you think it’s no big deal (and even if your kids say it’s no big deal), it matters.” She argues that while little moments like these can seem inconsequential, being there or not being there for your kid can make all the difference. Though she also acknowledges that even if “you can’t be there, trying matters.”
So whether they play baseball, basketball, or are the captain of the chess team, do what you can to be there on the sidelines cheering them on. After all, it may not feel like a big deal now but in the long term, seeing you at the game may end up giving your favorite athlete the confidence they need to believe in themselves