You’ve surely seen a gender reveal on social media a hundred times before; maybe you’ve even done one yourself. It goes a little something like this: The expectant parents slice open a cake or set off confetti poppers to reveal either blue or pink, indicating whether they’re having a boy or girl. Gender reveals have become hugely popular across social media and even celebrities are partaking. But the mom who first sparked gender reveals has a new perspective on the popular parenting trend and recently shared her change of heart.
In July 2008, Jenna Karvunidis shared the gender of her now-10-year-old daughter with a cake-cutting reveal on her blog. The post went viral, and many consider Karvunidis the person who popularized it. But now, as a mother of three, the California blogger isn’t so sure about gender reveals.
After a Twitter user called her the inventor of the gender reveal, Karvunidis took to Facebook to express her feelings along with an updated family photo. In the post, the 39-year-old mother said that her 10-year-old daughter now expresses herself in non-binary ways. Because of this, Karvunidis’ perspective on gender has shifted. “Who cares what gender the baby is?” she wrote. “I did at the time because we didn’t live in 2019 and didn’t know what we know now — that assigning focus on gender at birth leaves out so much of their potential and talents that have nothing to do with what’s between their legs.”
A weird thing came up on Twitter, so I figured I'd share here. Someone remembered it was me who "invented" the gender…
She elaborated on her thoughts to BuzzfeedNews, saying: “Just because it’s the first thing we know about our kids, it’s not the most important by far.”
Her post has gotten a ton of attention on social media, with users resonating with Karvunidis’ perspective. Perhaps, this trend will soon be a thing of the past. Karvunidis says she hopes to see people “pivot to a pregnancy reveal.” As she told Buzzfeed: “It can happen sooner, and everyone still gets cake.”
"Who cares what gender the baby is? I did at the time because we didn't live in 2019 and didn't know what we know now – that assigning focus on gender at birth leaves out so much of their potential and talents"
-the inventor of the gender reveal party pic.twitter.com/yQIl5lMjb1
— Avery Alder (@lackingceremony) July 25, 2019