Like most parents, filmmaker Duncan Jones knows that raising kids isn’t always easy or enjoyable. But when the Hollywood director opened up about the struggle of parenting on Twitter over the weekend, many people were outraged.
“I have 2 kids. 2 1/2 years & 9 months old respectively. I’ll tell you something I never see anyone admit… [my kids] are exhausting, frustrating & life-destabilizing,” Jones, who is the guy who directed Moon, and other great films, is also the son of the late David Bowie. This is what he tweeted on Saturday.
“They are rarely fun. Sure, smiles are great, hugs are lovely, but it’s HARD & not obviously a good choice in life.”
The dad of two then followed up with a second tweet. “This is where people feel compelled to say ‘I wouldn’t change it for the world!’ But you know… Of course, I’d reconsider! It’s exhausting! It’s banal! It’s like looking after a dog you can’t housetrain,” he confessed, adding, “What it is, is that it is & they are mine. Hopefully, they turn out ok.”
Jones even touched on the struggle of trying to get alone time with his wife, tweeting, “We haven’t had dinner together once in nine months, & we have gone out alone together once, for two hours.”
I have 2 kids. 2 1/2 years & 9 months old respectively.
I’ll tell you something I never see anyone admit… they are exhausting, frustrating & life-destabilizing. They are rarely fun. Sure, smiles are great, hugs are lovely, but it’s HARD & not obviously a good choice in life.
— Duncan Jones (@ManMadeMoon) January 12, 2019
Many people criticized the 47-year-old for his opinions on parenthood. One tweeted, “I feel sorry for you that this is how you feel about your kids. It’s like you’re missing the point of being a dad,” while another said, “Grow up and stop badmouthing your children online.”
However, Jones also received sympathy from fellow parents who understand his struggle, with tweets like, “Parenting is tough, & we should stop pretending otherwise.” One dad even admitted, “My wife and I love our kid with all we have in our hearts but we lay in bed some nights longingly thinking about the alternate universe version of ourselves that took the no kid road. The freedom road…”