One dad is causing quite the controversy online after he called out daddy-daughter dances for being sexual and inappropriate. In a viral post on Reddit’s “Am I The Asshole?” channel, he defends why he’s against the popular pastime for young girls and their fathers.
“They are creepy and sexualize the relationship between daughter and father,” user u/pfunnk14 posted on Monday. “The whole thing just grosses me out and makes my skin crawl. I love my daughter with all my heart, but I don’t want to date her.”
He went on to add, “I also don’t want to reinforce weird gender and patriarchal stereotypes in daughter’s young mind.”
Unfortunately, the dad explained that his wife does not share his opinion and that she believes he is denying their two-year-old daughter quality bonding time. So he turned to Reddit for advice—and the responses were very divided.
Some took the original poster’s side, agreeing that the dances are weirdly sexual. “You are totally correct in that a lot of these D&D dances are rooted in purity balls, which are creepy as fuck, sexist, misogynistic and focus on treating the daughter like a possession passed from father to husband,” one person commented.
However, others felt that the dad was taking things too far, citing their own experiences at father-daughter dances growing up. Many said that they had great memories from having special time with their dads. One woman wrote, “It wasn’t like we were even dancing WITH our dads most of the time, usually the girls were all dancing and the dads were all sitting at the snack table and hanging out.”
But regardless of anyone’s opinion, including his own, the dad later updated his post to say, “I would absolutely go if my daughter really wanted to. I would be uncomfortable about it probably, but I’d never hurt my daughter if it meant that much to her.”