There’s an unfortunate amount of research that suggests men are more confident than women on the whole. Not only does that give you another reason to build up your daughter’s confidence, but it may also give your spouse a good of a reason to call you cocky. A recent study reveals that swagger can make all the difference when it comes to your kids behavior later in life. Bring on the big head!
Researchers from Oxford University analyzed at data from the Avon Longitudinal Study that originally looked at 14,107 children born in the 1990s — 10,440 of which were living with both parents at 8 months old in order to qualify for the research cohort. Mothers were given a series of questionnaires assessing their child’s behavior at age 9 and 11.
Men were similarly surveyed at 8 weeks and 8 months after the birth of their babes about their feelings towards fatherhood. Taking into account controls for variables like gender, socioeconomic status, and family size, researchers found that for every point above average dads had in parenting confidence, kids were 13 percent less likely to develop behavioral problems by age 9, and 11 percent less likely by age 11. Conveniently, there was no such correlation between how much housework dads did and decreased behavioral problems. To think, you could’ve been working on your confidence instead of those dishes this entire time.
And while shirking chores may not adversely impact your kid’s future behavior, it’s definitely not going to get you laid either. Instead of going on strike, the better takeaway here is to stay positive and self-assured — you may just turn a feral toddler into a model citizen. Still cocky? When in doubt, this simple psychological tool can help build up your confidence, without making you feel like a psychological tool.
[H/T] The Guardian