One of the oldest parenting gripes is often centered around how one parent is usually feeling like they have to be the ‘bad guy’ in every situation while the other one gets cool points for being unassertive. During an interview to promote her next cookbook, Chrissy Teigen explained that in her marriage to John Legend, he’s usually the one taking a backseat when it comes to rules.
“He will say no and then if Luna asks one more time, it’s a yes,” she told BUILD Series. “He’s a bit of a pushover with Luna. I think it’s because they look so much alike, and he’s like, ‘OK, you beautiful being. Anything you want.'”
Legend’s more lax attitude doesn’t always rub his wife the right way, and she was hardly tepid with her critiques.
“He needs to learn to say no because I’m the tough guy,” she said. “It’s always a thing in any household, there’s always one.”
But, at the same time, the two have kind of a jokey relationship and neither minds teasing the other one a little bit, even when it comes to pet peeves. After she said he needed to learn to say no, Teigen described Legend as an “insanely patient,” and attentive father. And, when you think about it, that can really soften the blow that comes with being “the tough guy” parent.
One parent will often feel like the other is neglecting their duties to the child by being lax or habitually passing the buck. But, to be focused, always in dad mode, and the more accommodating parent— well, that’s not quite as bad.