Here’s Why You Want Your Spouse To Make More Than You

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Increasing income parity between husbands and wives is only a bad thing if you don’t like financial stability, but how it affects couples’ attitude toward money is still developing. Money Magazine published the results of a 1000-couple survey that examines what happens when wives start bringing home as much – or more – bacon as their husbands. Here are 4 of the most surprising takeaways (plus one you probably saw coming).

Men are turned on by high-earning wives
Couples with equal or higher-earning wives are only 6-percent happier than couples in which the wife earned less than the husband. When the survey focused specifically on men and sex, however, the differences are more … engorged. Fifty six percent of husbands with bacon-bringing wives reported high sexual satisfaction, compared to only 43 percent of those with low-earning wives. She must look good in green.

More money, more problems … for her
Overall, 45 percent of men and 47 percent of women say they are more concerned about money than their spouse. However, 65 percent of higher-earning wives feel they worry more than their husbands, compared to only 41 percent of lower-earning wives. Fortunately for their husbands, it appears the high-earning wives deal with this stress by having more hot sex.

You don’t know what you think you know
Men consistently underestimate how seriously their wives take financial goals. Whether it’s saving for emergencies, saving for retirement, investing correctly or paying down debt, the survey found 22-to-24-percent gaps between men’s perception of their wives concern and their wives’ actual concern. Finally, scientific proof that she’s right when she says you’re not listening to her.

Everything mellows with age
A whopping 70 percent of couples claim money is a bigger source of friction than anything from chores to snoring, but this eases over time. Peak arguing age is between 35 and 44, also known as the “College costs what?!” and the “Honey, I shrunk the 401K” years. By the time you’re 65, you’re more than 20 percent less likely to be bickering about money, and significantly more likely to be watching sunsets while sitting in side-by-side bathtubs on a deck somewhere.

Sex And The City was right about one thing
Fifty five percent of the time couples argue about money, it’s specifically about spending, which might be because 22 percent of those surveyed admit to having made purchases without telling their spouses. As for the kinds of clandestine purchases being made, men were more likely to spend on hobbies or electronics, while women were more likely to buy gifts for their friends or … shoes.

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