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How to Talk About Trying New Things in Bed

A few pointers to help push the conversation.

Sex with a long term partner can sometimes start to feel like having the same meal over and over again. And while the food and service are **kisses fingers like a chef** sometimes you want to sample something from a different type of menu. But bringing up ways to experiment in the bedroom is tricky. And, honestly, doing so with someone with whom you’ve already established a sexual routine, no matter how close you are, can be awkward. Still, when you add items to the list of things you want to explore during sex, it’s a good idea to, well, talk about trying new things in bed. To keep that conversation from going south, it’s important to be mindful of your approach. Listed below are six ways to discuss your expanding sexual palate without sending the wrong message.

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Do Your Homework

Please, don’t get ahead of yourself. Maybe getting handcuffed to the bedpost looks cool in the movies, but it could be a real nightmare when things actually come to pass. If you find yourself drawn towards any kind of R-rated activity, try doing a little research. Take the time to figure out if what you’re thinking about is strictly fantasy, or if it’s something you actually want to bring into the bedroom. And while you’re at it, think about how your spouse will react. If you feel there’s any potential for weirdness, then try catering your desires toward whoever it is they become in the bedroom.

See What Pop Culture Can (Already) Do For You

So you want to give your lady a pat on the rump but you don’t know how to tell her. Good news. Hollywood will tell her for you. Find a movie that fits your mind frame and queue it up. Rent Secretary if the kinky stuff in that movie is what you’re after. And while the acting in 50 Shades of Grey is more wooden than a park bench, it puts some interesting sexual options on the screen. Streaming media is your friend. Queue up something that starts a conversation and have fun with it. .

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Or Change Up Your Viewing All Together

If those who can’t do, teach, then those who can’t say, show. Whatever it is you’re into, there is porn of it. If you really can’t find the words you need to explain your interest, then queue up some X-rated material to help deliver the message. Besides, leaning on a couple of pros for help doesn’t sound like a bad move, especially when you’re trying to describe a move.

Go Sex Shopping

Seeing is believing. But it’s also arousing. If you and your partner are busy making a living and raising kids, then you probably don’t spend much time surfing the web for the latest in intimacy innovations. If you’re feeling expansive, then take a trip to the nearest sex shop. Fish around for accessories related to whatever it is you’ve been fantasizing about. Present it to your partner. And have fun feeling out new options. You never know what that IRL exposure will unearth.

Consult A Professional

Years ago, we were on our own when it came to sexual adventuring. But these days, there are professionals to help us navigate through. Sex coaches are now a thing. So are masturbation coaches. And yeah, sex-minded hypnotists are out there, too. If you’re not surehow to communicate an interest in something new, try contracting someone to help broker the conversation. It’s an actual option.