How to Have Great Sex With a Small Penis

All it requires is a few course corrections.

Recommended Video
Loading Video Content
ADVERTISEMENT

According to an online survey of 25,000 participants, almost half of all men wish their penises were larger. Concerns surrounding size have become so pervasive that some psychologists have come up with a (very obvious) name for it: small penis syndrome. What most men don’t realize, however, is that they fall well within the normal range. In fact, the average erection measures 5.6 inches. That’s not even as long as a dollar bill. And it gets the job done.

But, of course, there are some whose fears present in a more legitimate fashion; men whose penile woes are rooted not in perception, but performance. It happens. But remember: it’s not the size of the boat and all that. Here are six tips to help the guys who are small in size.

Try This Modified Missionary Position

If your head is too small for your glasses, you can tighten the frame. The same logic can apply to sex with a small penis. The “modified missionary” position, or, what Cosmo mysteriously calls the “lock and load,” refers to a specific style of (heterosexual) sex that can help those on the smaller side of the spectrum. It starts with normal missionary, with the man on top and in between the woman’s legs. After a few bumps and grinds, she should try lowering her legs down onto the bed. Then the man can position his knees on either side of her body.

“There are actually two advantages to this position,” says sex coach and author Charlie Glickman. “One is that it creates a tighter squeeze, which can be more pleasurable for both of them. But also, the shaft of his penis will be sliding up and down, with more pressure on her clitoris. That’s going to make sex feel better for her.”

Get Wider During Doggie

Doggie-style lends itself to some creative positioning, which is important when it comes down to having sex with a small penis.

To help, Glickman suggests having the receiver get down on their hands and knees with their legs spread wide.

“Normally, I recommend this as a way of facilitating deeper penetration,” he says. “If you keep your knees together, then your butt checks are right there. That’s going to provide more padding, and that means you can’t get in as far.” By asking your partner to spread their knees out wide, you distribute the goods and provide them the luxury of not having to thrust quite so far.

Use Your Fingers

If you’re really concerned that your penis is not big enough to satisfy your partner, then take it out of the equation for just a moment. You’re armed with other tools capable of doing a job well done. Just take a look at your hands. “It’s amazing how few people know how to use their hands for sex,” says Glickman. A recent study just confirmed that women are most likely to experience orgasm through a variety of sex acts other than intercourse. Genital touching – i.e. finger play – just happens to be one of the more effective methods out there.

Try Another Route…

Inserting large objects into small orifices can hurt. One of the advantages of having a smaller penis is that it can make certain kinds of penetration more pleasurable for those on the receiving end.

“I talk to quite a few women who tell me that they really like receiving anal play – but not if their partner is too big,” says Glickman. That’s not to say every guy sporting a small package should start asking his partner about this route, of course. We’re simply saying that guys who are less endowed and into that sort of thing could probably fare well with folks who are already into it.

…Or Add an Attachment

There is no shortage of snake oil salesmen lurking around the web, looking for men desperate to increase the size of their penis. Some will suggest you can stretch your way to a bigger size. Others say you should try weighing it down. There are even some who say you should inject it with filler. These options are ineffective, and they are dangerous. If you’re really itching to experience life with a bigger penis, why not try something simpler. Why not buy yourself a toy?

Today’s market is full of sleeves, extensions, and harnesses. And some guys will find the return on investment to be well worth the price. “There is something remarkably liberating about wearing a harness,” says Glickman. “When you are having intercourse with a penis, you’re always tracking yourself. You’re always concerned about staying aroused long enough to stay hard. You worry about orgasming too soon.” With an attachment, you don’t have to think about any of that.

Get Fatherly In Your Inbox


Survey Callout Image