Though it wasn’t explicitly stated in your vows, when you got married you thought your were signing up for a lifetime of elbows in the back followed by, “stop snoring.” But for some couples like Jennifer Adams and her husband, 2 beds are not just better than one — they’re the secret to a lasting marriage, and also sleep and sanity, which help too. If you’ve been losing any of those 3 things because of your spouse, it might be helpful to know that you don’t have to (that’s your kid’s job).
Nine years after pushing the beds apart, Adams and her partner are still happily married and they’re not alone. The National Sleep Foundation estimates that anywhere from 11 to 23 percent of live-in couples sleep in separate beds. One study out of Toronto’s Ryerson University found that as many as 30 to 40 percent of couples sleep separately worldwide, which begs the question: Jealous? According to British sleep specialist Dr. Neil Stanley, you should be because 50 percent more disturbances occur when sleeping next to someone, compared to sleeping like you’re single.
As tough of a sell as this may seem to your spouse, it’s entirely possible they feel the same way. Writer, wife, and mother of 2 Rachel Levin confessed to wanting exactly that in an essay for OZY, so it’s not just a guy thing. America’s National Association Of Home Builders projects that 60 percent of new homes are now built with dual master bedrooms, so if discussing it doesn’t work, moving could help your cause. At the very least, you’ll both finally be able to settle the debate of who your kid loves/bothers more.
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