Crowdsourcing answers to complicated personal questions – like, say, how a couple with kids can still have a relationship and individual lives – doesn’t always bear much fruit. But this exchange (started by a poor bastard whose situation hopefully makes yours look reasonable) contains some pearls of wisdom. It’s important to schedule time for both yourself and for each other; a solid sleep routine for the kids goes a long way to creating that time, and nothing is more crucial than a regular dialog with your partner.