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What Is ‘No Cry’ Sleep Training?

Want to sleep train but can't stand the endless wails of your baby? No cry, also known as no tears sleep training is one answer. Here's how it works.

No cry sleep training is an increasingly popular approach among parents who are horrified by the more popular “cry it out” method, popularized in Dr. Richard Ferber’s 1985 book, Solve Your Child’s Sleep Problems. Because Ferber’s method doesn’t sound great. Why would any parent choose to let their children cry it out, when a no cry sleep solution method is a viable option? And is it really possible that, by following a series of no cry sleep solution steps, parents can avoid bedtime tears altogether?

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The truth, according to clinical sleep psychologist Lynelle Schneeberg of Yale School of Medicine, is that no cry sleep training doesn’t differ all that much from “cry it out”—it simply takes a more gradual approach (she prefers to call no cry sleep solution methods “fewer tears” sleep training). The premise behind no cry sleep training is that tears aren’t the only way to turn a baby into a self-soother. Like “cry it out”, no cry sleep training advocates creating a cozy and comforting bedtime routine and sticking to it. From there, the no cry sleep solution steps branch off into hundreds of different techniques, each with its own book and set of faithful supporters.

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For example, registered nurse Tracy Hogg, in Secrets of the Baby Whisperer, recommends going in when your baby cries, picking her up for a quick reassurance, and then placing her back in the crib and leaving the room. Repeat as many times as necessary. “There’s so many ways to do sleep training,” says Schneeberg. “It ultimately depends on parental preference, and it depends on the parent’s interpretation of the temperament of the child.”

The Ferber method does not inevitably cause crying, either. Tears happen when a child who is dependent on external soothing — rocking, lullabies, comfort-feeding, cuddling, bouncing, or any of the other theatrics parents perform crib side — goes through the transition of becoming a child capable of falling, and staying, asleep on her own. “You’re used to falling asleep with a pillow. What if the next time you woke, it was gone? You’d wonder, where the heck’s my pillow? And you’d try to find it so you could go back to sleep,” Schneeberg says. The same is true for an infant who is used to being rocked to sleep, and wakes up to find mom or dad gone.

Every sleep training method—no cry sleep training, cry it out, and everything in between—works within this space of helping babies “find their pillows”. Because whether we’re talking “cry it out” or “no cry,” the end goal is the same: to teach baby to be an independent sleeper, capable of falling asleep without parental assistance. Babies and children who have this skill sleep better, longer, and are generally happier. Not to mention mom and dad.