To paraphrase the great Bernie Mac, little kids are terrorists and you shouldn’t negotiate with terrorists. Still, there are ways you can use the illusion of negotiation with your kid to keep the family peace during decisions that might otherwise result in a tantrum. The key is, whenever possible, present them with options. Whether it’s what they’re going to eat for dinner, what they’re going to wear that day or where you’re going to go play that afternoon, giving them a choice creates the opportunity for them to make up their own mind and feel empowered rather than forced into doing something. They’ll think they pulled on over on you by deciding to wear their green pants today, and never realize that you just tricked them into wearing pants at all.