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I Thought I Wanted A Son More Than A Daughter Because I Was Dumb

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Do expecting parents really have no preference for the gender of their child?

I wanted a boy. Really badly. Instead I got a girl.

I wanted a son to teach all the things my dad taught me (and the stuff he didn’t). I had a very old Victorian notion about my child carrying on my last name. A girl couldn’t do that!

When we found out we were having a girl, I wasn’t exactly upset but … I was disappointed that my selfish wishes were not coming true.


Three years later, I laugh at how stupid it was of me to care at all about the gender of my child. My daughter is one of the best things to happen to me and my wife. This little girl has brought us so much joy, and I can’t imagine life without her. If seeing her born wasn’t enough to completely change my mind, the first time she said, “I love you, daddy” sealed the deal.

I’d guess most expecting parents do have a gender preference, even if they refuse to admit it.

Post-birth, most parents couldn’t care less.

Brandon Berryhill is a data center engineer, musician, husband, and father. Read more from Quora below:

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