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One Simple Thing I Did To Help My Wife Through An Extremely Difficult Pregnancy

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What was the best thing you have done for your pregnant wife?

When my wife was pregnant with our son, the pregnancy hardly seemed to affect her — we even went motorcycle camping while she was 5 months pregnant and she had to hold her leather motorcycle pants together with a big safety pin because they wouldn’t zip up anymore.

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Her second pregnancy wasn’t as easy — after the first few months, she developed Symphysis pubis dysfunction, which caused her pain while walking, and fluid retention caused her hands to swell painfully, making housework nearly impossible.

I took care of the daily chores, worked full-time, took our son to daycare, cleaned up after my wife, made sure the shelves were well stocked, and took care of my wife as best I could, but the thing she remembers most fondly were my calm reassurances, even when the hormones wreaked havoc and she became emotionally unstable, going from laughter to fury to tears in a heartbeat. I bore her verbal abuse calmly and kept our son occupied with playdates and other activities to shield him from seeing his mother’s crying jags or impotent anger.

Although I told her that I knew it was the hormones and that it would be over once she delivered the baby, she still praises my fortitude in bearing the brunt of her horrible behavior.

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After our daughter was born, all my wife’s symptoms vanished and she could pick up her life again. Our son was worried about her the first few months, having witnessed a few early explosions of fury when my wife was in a bad state, but he quickly realized his sweet mommy was back.

So I guess the best thing a husband can do for his wife is to be there for her, rain or shine.

Martyn V. Halm is a fiction writer and professional confabulator. You can read more from Quora below: